I participate regularly in the Integral Facilitator® program calls. It’s an opportunity for program participants to gather with program faculty and explore what’s “up” for them. We share our experiences, challenges, and questions, and leverage new opportunities for growth.
I look forward to these practice gatherings because they are alive, emergent, inspiring and support us in playing at our edge. This intentional community consistently invites me into a deeper relationship with why I am here. We each bring a unique perspective, yet we’re all connected by our desire to participate fully and to be of service to an intention that’s much bigger than any of us.
On our most recent community call, Diane Musho Hamilton (Integral Facilitator® lead teacher) reflected back our aspirations to be of service. This triggered my thoughts; we want to serve the planet, make the world a better place, make a difference. Help our clients. Write that book. Reduce, reuse, recycle. Etc. etc.
What she said next struck me as the REAL opportunity, and a more relevant invitation.
“How can you serve the present moment?”
Not serving the need for something bigger or more, but serving this moment, now.
Like a stickpin hitting a balloon, “serve the present moment” popped my awareness.
It reminded me how easy it can be to hang out in the future with an inspiring vision or goal and be taken away from what’s arising now.
I thought of all the things that can pull me out of the moment when I facilitate: my preference for structure (following the agenda), my attachment to the client experiencing results, my fear of the unknown, my frustration about a problematic room set up, etc. To sum it up, what gets most in the way of my being present is my desire to control, particularly when things aren’t going as planned (as I planned).
The other thing that expanded my awareness in Diane’s invitation is to “serve the Moment.” Not the person, not the process, not the collective intention or purpose, not the desired outcome, but the Moment.
As I glimpse the potential wisdom of the moment, I am aware there is something much bigger than me, bigger than us, bigger than it going on here. My preferences are personal and ego-based. There is so much more available, there is so much more going on Now. It’s way bigger than me.
So my ego waves the white flag. In the awareness of the vastness of the Moment, there’s no contest. And not much else to do. I give up.
Oddly, I hadn’t even realized I’d been fighting.
It’s obvious when I am in conflict with another person. I contract, then energetically push. Then they (usually) contract and push back. And we continue butting heads, back and forth. I have found the most effective way to resolve such a conflict is to relax, expand and move towards the other.
When I am fighting with the moment, the same solution is available. I relax, expand and move towards the moment and all that is present Now.
“How can I serve this moment?” is a simple and powerful invitation. If this resonates, I encourage you to play with it. Notice when you contract and push against what’s present, then ask yourself “How can I serve this moment?”
Dr. Cindy Lou Golin
Integral Facilitator® Faculty, Coach