How can we become more capable of working with whatever comes up in our lives in a way that actually supports the growth and evolution of all human beings?
When we cultivate presence, we are more able to work with the here and now, take more perspectives, and embrace more of our experience—including dissonance and conflict.
We have more choices, and more capacity to address the full complexity of what is happening—in the energetics of a room, in the emotional domains, in the realms of power and authority, decision making, and conflict.
Being able to open up to a deeper reality beyond our own notions of what’s going on in a group begins with three essential moves:
Often, the last move can be quite challenging.
How do we catalyze a group to become more coherent, and deepen the quality of engagement and intimacy?
One of the pillars of Flex-Flow experiences in groups occurs when individuals shift their awareness from first person experience to the experience of the group or the whole.
As facilitators, leaders, and participants, we can generate greater coherence and enhance the quality of our work together by shifting our group’s awareness from “I to We.”
By shifting our attention to others, sharing our impressions of the collective space, and noticing coherence and common characteristics of the moment we can significantly heighten our participation in the group awareness.
Here are some practices we’ve explored in our workshops that you can take into your life and work:
CULTIVATING COHERENCE AND COMMUNION IN GROUPS
Hopefully, after reflecting on these practices, you’re curious about how these kinds of techniques could be used effectively with a wide variety of group cultures and styles. To deepen your learning, you might find it helpful to reflect on these questions about your own approach:
Individual and collective development are interrelated, because as we develop, our experience in groups changes.
We become more at ease, less fearful, less instinctively competitive and self-protective. We feel more freedom to be ourselves, and we have fewer struggles with the otherness of others.
We have access to creativity, we enjoy the support of others, and at the same time, we are willing to experience more authentic challenges. We live with liveliness and vigor.